For most people considering a divorce, it’s overwhelming and difficult to know how to take the first step. Every divorce is unique which is why the family law attorneys at Phyllis Law are dedicated to starting by listening. Listening so that we understand what is most important to you and your family, and then working hard to protect it.
There are a lot of misconceptions about the divorce process. The emotions involved can make it difficult to understand what does and does not matter to the family law courts. While your emotions absolutely matter, your emotions will only serve as a distraction in the divorce process. A therapist, counselor or even friend or family member can likely help you manage the emotional process.
We Help You Avoid Distractions
The reasons you and your spouse are getting divorced are very much front and center in your mind. However, the actual reasons you are getting divorced have nothing to do with your divorce process. Your spouse’s inability to be emotionally available or the way they always side with their mom over you will simply not matter to your divorce.
There are a fairly narrow set of facts that the judge who will approve or deny the finalization of your divorce agreement will be interested in:
- How we are managing the separation of shared assets.
- How we are managing the shared parenting of any minor children.
- How we are managing any financial support that will be paid from one spouse to the other
The more we focus on reaching an acceptable agreement on these key issues, the smoother, easier and more cost-effective your divorce process will be. This saves you money, time and helps you move on with your new life sooner, instead of being bogged down in a long and costly divorce.
It can feel odd to pursue compromise after the difficulties in your relationship pushed you to divorce. You’re not doing it to be kind or forgiving – it’s a strategy to minimize back and forth arguments between lawyers. We are not going to lay down and let your spouse take what they want, but we are not going to litigate over a couch. Our goal is the right amount of conflict for the best possible outcome.
